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Mr Polite 2:27 Tue Jan 12
The ever growing hobby of Grieving

I know I'm not the only one, but I seem to be in an ever shrinking minority of people that find the way people grieve a bit stomach turning.

For clarity, I am not talking about death of a close friend or family member as i'm well aware that people will deal with that in many different ways.

I'm talking about either the death of someone you know of in passing or a famous person.

On the news the other night there was a lad who had died and a few from the local community were falling over themselves to say how much it affected them. One girl was clearly loving the camera saying how she couldn't sleep at night and didn't know what to do. She was attempting to make it all about her.


The famous person thing I get that people are sad of the passing of someone whose work they admired or enjoyed and that they'll miss that. I just think as a nation we have gone from the stiff upper lip which could be argued wasn't particularly healthy to the complete other end of the spectrum.

Take Bowie for instance. Whether you loved him or not it is impossible not to admit he was a huge star whose work was enjoyed by millions. It's a good thread as it gives good examples of people that are paying tribute to a talented bloke but also much like when news channels ask 'send us your tributes' it also has many people grieving and making it about them.

Here are a selection of comments from that thread:

Gutted by this news.
Prob the only time I have ever choked up over a celeb dying.
Playing Modern Love at the mo. Keep welling up. (same poster posted that twice)
When I heard the news this morning I felt sick, just sick.
finding it hard to cope with this news
No but feel sad and emotional and keep choking up as his songs are everywhere today.
Fucking hell, what a sad day. Just want it to be over.
RIP Devastated today
Too gutted yesterday to read anything on here, even took the day off work
RIP Bowie - A piece of me has died with you


I've not even had to do my usual thing of making any of those up.


This isn't a thread about Bowie, but more the way people seem to enjoy public displays of faux grief.

Has it always been that way, but now with social media we just see more of it? It is a typical British disease or is it a worldwide thing?

Either way - why not try to man up you fucking cunts.

Don't even get me started on flowers on the roadside...

Thanks for reading

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Gavros 2:31 Tue Jan 12
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Dont worry Polite, we'll balance it out with a big fucking party when you peg it.

Grumpster 2:33 Tue Jan 12
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I have never even grieved at the loss of a family member, be it by accident, old age or murder, so whenever a famous person dies, I'll obviously respect them, but really I couldn't care less as I don't actually know them.

As I stated on the Bowie thread, it just amazes me that the papers then have 15 pages on them.

I mean they only sang songs, I'd rather look at 15 pages of tits.




Emotions are funny things though, which is why I chose to not have any.

Nurse Ratched 2:35 Tue Jan 12
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I agree with Mr Polite.

Takashi Miike 2:35 Tue Jan 12
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good post mr p, i was about to cunt you off but having reax the whole post, i found it very balanced :.)

Takashi Miike 2:36 Tue Jan 12
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*read*

reax? cunt of a phone

Eerie Descent 2:36 Tue Jan 12
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New, cutting edge views from Polite.

BRANDED 2:36 Tue Jan 12
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Its very Gay for sure.

When my Mum was dying of dementia one of the nurses said " 89 isnt that old, there are some in here in there late 90s".

But. Its not a competition to se how old and spazzy you can get. Its about quality if life WHILE YOU'RE LIVING.

When you're dead you're dead. No matter how you die you are still dead.

I genuinely hate RIP. Like a dead person is going to be restless?

Use a bit of imagination.

On The Ball 2:36 Tue Jan 12
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Agree completely.

People are completely welcome to their own grief, we all deal with things differently. And I appreciate that someone like Bowie means a lot to some as he was the soundtrack to an important part of their lives, so putting him aside, it's still all too much.

Although I will say about Bowie - the attention-seeking PA at work came in yesterday telling everyone how she'd had to pull over because she was sobbing too much to drive when she heard the news. "I have no words" she keeps saying on Facebook, before adding a few dozen words explaining why it's affected her more than anyone.

chad sexington 2:39 Tue Jan 12
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Polite, spot on.

It's all attention seeking bollocks. Look what an amazing human I am. My heart is just too big for the world.

Mr Kenzo 2:39 Tue Jan 12
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The bird on Radio 2, 15 mins ago had it spot on

Annony 2:39 Tue Jan 12
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Couldn't this go on the Bowie thread you c*** and err what has this got to do with West Ham? :-)

That said, I knew someone who had a florist shop that she was thinking of closing due to poor trade then Diana died. As it was the closet florist to Kensington Palace Gates she raked it in for many years as grief tourists from all corners of the world were queuing up as you had to walk past it from the nearest tube. The novelty wore off after a while, but she literally got about 5 years or so of solid takings off the back of it. Closed it down shortly after, and opened another in a busier area, now a charity shop.

mallard 2:40 Tue Jan 12
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Social media has it's part to play - I noticed yesterday on Cuntbook that everyone was desperate to post a Bowie song before anyone else did.

I think it's the new emotional generation coming through craving for attention.

solidbond 2:41 Tue Jan 12
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Hear hear.its part of the its all about me culture

Saul Bollox 2:41 Tue Jan 12
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I am afraid many of the qualities of being English seem to have gone out with the stiff upper lip. When you have lost a son or daughter and then see the shit that goes on about celebrities it makes you want to be sick.

We are a nation of victims and compensation seekers.

Honest Hammer 2:42 Tue Jan 12
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I do agree, do we need 2 days of tributes, how long does this public outcry go on for?


On the flip side - I never knew Dylan Tombides but the news of his death reduced me to tears and I'll admit to crying during his minute's applause.

I'm a bit of a wimp though.

El Scorchio 2:42 Tue Jan 12
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It's social media- everyone feels they have to have their say when something happens. It's not just deaths- any sort of 'significant' event these days.

Don't think there's anything wrong with it, unless it's ridiculously OTT. It's quite nice to pay respects and in the case of Bowie, see/read what he meant to people, as I'm sure his career touched almost everyone in some way. Just tune it out if you don't like it.

The Joker 2:44 Tue Jan 12
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Gutted by this news.
Prob the only time I have ever choked up over a celeb dying.
Playing Modern Love at the mo. Keep welling up. (same poster posted that twice)
When I heard the news this morning I felt sick, just sick.
finding it hard to cope with this news
No but feel sad and emotional and keep choking up as his songs are everywhere today.
Fucking hell, what a sad day. Just want it to be over.
RIP Devastated today
Too gutted yesterday to read anything on here, even took the day off work
RIP Bowie - A piece of me has died with you


Most shocking of all was that they were all by 13BR.

Jokes aside, a very good post Mr P. I have to say that "Too gutted yesterday to read anything on here, even took the day off work" - the workshy cunt definitely needs to be named and shamed.

Mr Polite 2:46 Tue Jan 12
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Honest Hammer 2:42 Tue Jan 12

although I agree you are a bit of a queen, getting chocked in that instance could be excused as empathy for the family as you see a properly grieving father and brother pay tribute.


Think you'd have to be an arse not to be moved seeing that.

JustAFatKevinDavies 2:48 Tue Jan 12
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personally agree with the sentiment but ultimately people are free to grieve exactly how they wish and I wouldn't dream of telling someone the way they go about it is unacceptable.

Mr Polite 2:50 Tue Jan 12
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The Joker 2:44 Tue Jan 12

a few of them were 13BR - I thought he should have been put on suicide watch by a responsible mod.


The other one is easy to find - it is near the most recently posted I think

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